Attractiveness: what is it?
We all find different attributes in a person attractive, we all have different ideas of what an attractive person is like, but there are universal elements of interpersonal style, or attributes that are broadly appealing to most.
Broadly speaking, most of us will find an attractive person friendly/approachable, caring, understanding, cheerful (always with a smile), good-natured, optimistic, non-critical/non-judgemental, etc. How many of us would want to associate with someone who is non-smiling, aloof, cynical, critical, bad-tempered, etc?
We know what we see in the other person that makes him/her attractive, we see attributes in the other person which appeal to us. But what about ourselves? Do we know what qualities we have in ourselves that make us attractive to others? Do we have those qualities? Do we know what kind of impression we leave in others? Is that the kind of impression we want to leave in others?
Most often, strangers form impression of others in the first 6 secs they meet, even though they may not have talked. Those impressions will be largely based on body language, facial expressions, certain nuances, etc. They notice what you say, how you respond.
Yet does that mean we have to be who we are not to exhibit those 'attractive qualities'? Do we have to compromise our own integrity, or personality to be attractive? Definitely not!! The more you try to be who you're not, i.e. pretend at it, the more you will come across as fake, or even worse, insincere!! That will only serve to be a turn-off.
A good impression is the one that reflects the real you, and presenting the best front of your real self, and not putting on a facade which was never you.
